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The Land of Nowhere

Sometimes it’s hard to fit in and find close friends in a new country. Then other times it’s hard to find friends from your own country. All of this friend-finding leaves you with the feeling that no one quite understands you. At least that is how I feel.

I spent most of my life trying to understand why I was so different. My morals, my religion, my standards, my humor, my thoughts. I accepted myself as weird and I loved who I was, but I always wanted at least one person to understand 100% of me. That was a hefty task, I know, but then I met my husband.

He was from a completely different country, culture and language than me, but he felt that he couldn’t truly be himself either. People just didn’t understand him and, yet, there I was, understanding him. For the first time in both of our lives, we found someone who understood 100% of each other. We said we were from Nowhereland.

It was a land where only we belong and we don’t mention it much anymore, until recently it came up again. We have lots of friends, so don’t get me wrong, but most of them only see one side or part of who we are. We aren’t keeping anything secret. It’s just how it is, usually. We are pretty goofy and can also be serious. We love being free but enjoy staying inside some nights. We just ‘get’ each other.

Sometimes I get frustrated not to have such close friends, but then I am reminded of the closest friend I have. It happens with a crooked smile and a shrug of his shoulders before saying, “we are from no where”.

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Posted by on October 21, 2015 in Love, Unknown to this World

 

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Last night was a big event for Unite Thornbury! We had such a multi-cultural group with lots of smiles and love in their hearts. I feel so blessed to have found a group of people who I may call my family without having any blood relation. I think that is true love, because with your family, it is often expected to love each other ‘just because’ you are related. You must, in a sense. Sometimes if you don’t love someone in your family, people think you are strange or that something is wrong…

However, loving a person for WHO they are, not how you know them, is even more powerful, I believe. You have no reasons, no relations, no blood to love them and, yet, you do. How amazing is that love?! Think of a best friend or your spouse… it feels so much more free to be who you are. No judging, no prejudice, no expectations, because they know YOU.

It frustrates me when I am judged based on my friends, my family, my culture, my language, my country, etc, etc… It is unbelievably frustrating, because I just want people to see me! Why is that so hard in today’s world? Everyone gets so comfortable being with their ‘own kind’, but I never understood what that meant, because we are all human beings on the same earth! Why must we judge? Why must we envy? Love, people! Love is so powerful: more powerful than all other feelings, and we still disregard it as weakness. Why? Is it weak to cry when holding a newborn baby? Is it weak to hug a brother with another skin color? Is it weak to laugh and joke in all different languages? Is it really weak? Love…

I often dream about a world that is so filled with love, that is alters the entire planet. What would it be like? To love one another, to love all creatures, to love cities and nature… Just love…

 

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